Intimacy & Communication Cards for Couples

WHAT KEEPS HAPPENING

You want to go deeper. You don't know how to start.

You sit across from each other. You love each other. The conversation still stays on the surface. The real things stay unsaid.

You don't know how to open that door without it turning into something else. This is for someone finding the patterns that close the door to touch, aliveness and connection, and learning how to open it again.

The communication, together with the cards, opens it for you.

You recognise this

You bring something up and it goes sideways within minutes.

You want more closeness but you don't want another difficult conversation.

You know something needs to shift. You don't know where to begin.

Or this

You want to understand each other better but the usual questions go nowhere.

You share a life, and still feel like there are whole rooms in each other you've never been in.

You are not in crisis. You just want more.

HOW IT WORKS

15 minutes. One card. One prompt, the whole time.

The speaker is not finished simply because they have spoken.

A communication is complete when the listener has understood it.

This is not just a deck of good questions, it is a structured way of communicating.

We talk all the time. Talking does not mean we have been understood.

No preparation. No agenda. Just a card and the willingness to be in the room with each other.

You were told The Spontaneity Lie: that real closeness arrives on its own, and anything built on purpose is not the real thing. It does not arrive on its own. It is built.

Connection does not just happen over dinner.

You build it, and the cards are the structure.

Set a 15-minute timerOne person picks a card and reads the prompt aloud.

One answer at a timeThe listener responds only with: Thank you. Clarify that. Summarise that.

Thank you means switchOnce you reach "Thank you," swap roles. Same prompt, back and forth.

Repeat until the timer endsThe repetition is the point. Each pass goes a little deeper.

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I built these cards because I needed them first. Fifteen years in the room with couples who love each other and cannot reach each other, and what I learned over the last twenty-seven years kept pointing at the same thing. I watched what happened when the right question landed at the right moment.

That moment is what the structure makes repeatable, at home, on an ordinary Tuesday. The card only hands you the question.

Minutes. One card, three answers.

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Couples worked with directly

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WHAT YOU ARE ACTUALLY BUYING

A deck that knows what kind of moment you are in.

Most card decks hand you a shuffle and hope.

Yours is sorted by the moment you are actually in, so the card that comes up fits the room you are in.

Sorted by the moment

When It's Good is warm and easy. After the Row is for repair. The Table is what you can say with other people in earshot.

You pick the section, or let it shuffle.

One question on a card

Each card holds a single prompt with nothing printed underneath it. You stay with that one question for the whole fifteen minutes.

The deepening is live. The listener says Clarify that, or Summarise that.

The heaviest cards are held back

Every deck keeps one section out of the shuffle, so nothing tender turns up when you only wanted something light.

You open it on purpose, when you have time and nothing after.

One card. Stay with the same prompt for the whole timer.
The first answers are the surface.

THE DECKS

Choose your way in.

All decks live in the same app. One-time payment, permanent access on any device.

START HERE

31 Days Closer

£17

31 cards, already in the right order
One a day, you never have to choose
Fifteen minutes and the three answers built in
Straight onto the cards, no password

Start 31 Days Closer

SEASONAL

Holiday Survival Kit

£17

37 cards for the four days you are trapped in a house with everyone
Arriving · The Table · The Way We Do It · What It Costs · Us · After
One card at the table changes the whole conversation
Behind the Door held out of the shuffle, for when everyone has gone to bed

Get the Holiday Kit

FOR THE TWO OF YOU

Couples

£35

169 cards, sorted by the moment you are in
When It's Good · warm, easy, playful
Touch and Desire · the body, and being wanted
After the Row · repair
What We Don't Say · the unsaid
Where It Came From · held out of the shuffle
One question per card, so you stay with it

Get Couples

FOR EVERYONE ELSE

Friends & Family

£35

172 cards, sorted by who is in the room
The Table · sayable with others in earshot
The People You Chose · friendship, belonging
Where You Come From · the family you were given
On Your Own · solo reflection
The Harder Ones · held out of the shuffle
One question per card, so you stay with it

Get Friends & Family

Couples and Friends & Family

£55

Couples deck included
Friends & Family deck included
Ten sections, so there is one for wherever you are
£70 of decks, yours for £55
Both live in the same app

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QUESTIONS

What you might be wondering.

Do we need to download an app?

The cards are browser-based. They work on any phone, tablet, or laptop. No download required.

Is this a subscription?

One-time payment. Permanent access. No recurring charges.

Can I use these alone?

Yes. Many people use the cards for solo reflection, journalling, or preparing for a conversation. The method works one person at a time too.

What is the difference between the decks?
The structure is the same in both. What changes is who is in the room.

Couples is sorted by the moment you are actually in: When It's Good, Touch and Desire, After the Row, What We Don't Say, and Where It Came From.

Friends & Family is sorted the same way: The Table for when other people can hear, The People You Chose, Where You Come From, On Your Own, and The Harder Ones.

31 Days Closer puts the order in for you, one card a day, so nobody has to choose.

Can I buy more decks later?

Yes. You can access individual decks or upgrade to a bundle at any point.

Pick a card. Ask the question. Notice what happens.