On: Sep 8, 2022

Stop Looking Outside Yourself for Things to Change

It’s easy to get caught up in the outside world and what is happening around us, but if you want to change your life, it starts on the inside.

There are many limiting beliefs that we have picked up along our journey that keep us from enjoying life fully. These limiting beliefs can be changed with awareness and deliberate effort.

The best way to change your life is to go inside and become aware of the limiting beliefs you have about yourself. These limiting beliefs are often based on our past experiences and how we interpret them in the present moment.

If you want more, if you want different, then you need to stop looking outside yourself for things to change.

What are limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are the thoughts that you have about yourself, your life and what is possible.

They are often based on past experiences or outside influences that we trust as true without testing it for ourselves.

These limiting beliefs can also be called self-limiting beliefs because they limit us from creating pleasure in our lives.

We all have them, but the most limited are those that have come from trauma. Trauma such as physical or emotional abuse, neglect, abandonment and injury can create beliefs that we are not good enough, not safe and not deserving of pleasure.

The good news is that you can change your limiting beliefs, but it starts with becoming aware of them.

How do you become aware of them?

One way is to pay attention to how you feel in your body. Our bodies are always giving us signals about what is going on inside of us, but we often don’t pay enough attention to them because we are so focused outside of us.

Another way to become aware of your limiting beliefs is by noticing how you talk to yourself. Do you say things like:

“I can never…” “I am not good enough.” “They will laugh at me if I do that.” These are just a few examples of the negative things we say to ourselves on an almost daily basis and they create our reality whether we believe them or not. We need to become aware of what we are saying to ourselves and change it.

One way you can start doing this is by changing your self-talk from negative (I am not good enough I will never be able to do that) to positive (You can do anything if you put your mind to it.) Instead of only changing the narrative, really feel both of the polarities. Yes, the more negative one too! By allowing yourself to FEEL both of these, you allow for the stuckness to release and this creates new neural pathways!

Why limiting beliefs are holding you back

Negative words lead to negative thoughts which lead to negative emotions. This can create trauma in the nervous system in just the same manner as physical experiences do.

The more we say these things to ourselves, the more trauma we are creating in our nervous system. This can affect us emotionally and physically.

Trauma creates pleasure blocks in the body. When something traumatic happens, our brain goes into survival mode and takes over. Our sympathetic nervous system kicks in and we go into fight, flight , freeze or fawn mode.

Our pleasure centre, located in the hypothalamus part of our brain is shut down and we stop receiving pleasure. The more pleasure blocks we have, the less pleasurable experiences we will allow ourselves to take in.

This response can lead to numbing ourselves in order NOT to FEEL. It may lead to addictions such as overeating or drinking alcohol excessively; it can also lead to not allowing yourself pleasure from anything.

We are pleasure receivers, but if we don’t allow ourselves pleasure or receive pleasure on a regular basis, our bodies will seek out that FEEL GOOD hit by overeating, drinking too much alcohol or seeking pleasure in other ways that aren’t necessarily good for us.

Why external change isn’t always the answer

Human beings are natural problem solvers, but we do have a habit of looking for external solutions for internal problems.

This can be a great strategy when you have an external problem, but it is not the best way to go about seeking pleasure. Pleasure isn’t something that comes from outside of yourself; pleasure actually exists inside each and every one of us.

In other words, your pleasure doesn’t come from what you eat, what you wear or where you go on vacation; the pleasure comes from inside of you. When we are able to tap into the pleasure that exists within us, it becomes much easier for us to find pleasure in our everyday lives.

Remember, your happiness is not dependent upon things outside yourself – so stop looking for change outside yourself. Instead, find ways to access the pleasure that already exists inside of you. In this way, your life will transform from the inside out!

Changing things like your relationship, job, or house might have you feel happy…. For a while… and then the rat race continues, and you start to look at more things to change.

Ultimately you won’t find happiness here– only changing your relationship to yourself will.

When we are able to change our relationship with ourselves, everything else in our lives begins to change as well.

So, the next time you feel like something is missing in your life, remember that the pleasure you’re seeking already exists inside of you! All you have to do is find a way to access it.

Why the love of self is so important

The longest and most intimate relationship you will ever have is with yourself.

You will be in a relationship with yourself for your entire life.

The way you feel about yourself is the primary factor that determines how happy or fulfilled you are, and whether your relationships succeed or fail.

It is important to love yourself because when we truly love ourselves, everything else naturally falls into place – our career choices begin to line up with who we really are; our happiness becomes infectious and can influence others around us; and most importantly, it allows us to forgive those who have wronged us instead of harbouring anger and resentment.

When we love and accept ourselves just as we are, it becomes much easier to let go of negative thoughts and behaviours that no longer serve us. We can then replace them with positive ones that empower us and help us move closer towards our goals.

So stop looking outside yourself for things to change – start by looking within instead! 🙂

  • Love & Accept Yourself Just As You Are

  • Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Behaviours That No Longer Serve You

  • Replace Them With Positive Ones That Empower You And Help You Move Closer Towards Your Goals

  • Go Inside To Change What Is Happening In Your World

  • Become Aware Of Limiting Beliefs And How They Are Holding You Back From Receiving Pleasure.

How do I love myself?

Walking around with a negative cloud over your head is not going to do anyone any good, including ourselves! So, it’s time to let go of whatever is weighing us down and start fresh. As the saying goes, “let go of the past and embrace the future.”

So, take a deep breath, release all that no longer serves you, and begin your journey towards self-love, acceptance and happiness! 🙂 I know easier said than done you may think.

Many people think they need something outside themselves to happen in order for them to feel better. This is absolutely not true!

What happens outside us, like what kind of job we have or how much money we make or who our friends are- all this can change at any time and does not depend on you.

What actually matters the most is what’s happening inside ourselves. If you aren’t feeling happy now it doesn’t mean that there will never be happiness again; sometimes life brings hard moments but these too pass away if we know how to manage them correctly.

Remember that only you yourself can do this transformation!

So, let go of whatever weight you’re carrying around with you right now (even though I’m sure it feels really heavy) and take a deep breath in…as you breathe out, let all the tension go.

Good job!

Now, ask yourself what’s really important to you?

What are your true desires? This is something that only you can answer and once you have it then allow life to unfold naturally.

You’ll find that everything else just falls into place without too much effort on your part because when we’re in alignment with who we truly are strain or struggle become surplus and unnecessary!

So, take a moment now for self-reflection and get clear about what it is that you want most in life. Once you have your answers, don’t be afraid to go after them and trust that they will show up. Obviously take action steps to get a bit closer each day!

There’s no need to look outside yourself for things to change because all the answers lie within. When we’re truly connected to our inner selves, everything falls into place without any effort on our part and we can finally start living a life of joy and true fulfilment.

The best way to achieve lasting change in your life is to start by looking within. Once you become aware of the limiting beliefs that are holding you back, it becomes much easier to let them go and open yourself up to all the wonderful possibilities that life has to offer. So don’t hesitate any longer – start exploring what’s inside of you today

How do I access the pleasure inside myself?

Start by becoming aware of how your limiting beliefs are holding you back from receiving pleasure. Once you become aware of these beliefs, begin to question them and see if they still serve you. If they don’t, then let them go!

When we can release our old stories and create new ones that support us, we open up the possibility for incredible things to come into our lives.

The next time something doesn’t go your way, check inside yourself for what is missing instead of looking outside of yourself for things to change. Instead of immediately looking for an external solution, see if you can find the answer within. When you make this internal shift, your external world will begin to change as well.

Start by becoming aware of how your limiting beliefs are holding you back from receiving pleasure. Once you become aware of these beliefs, begin to question them and see if they still serve you. If they don’t, then let them go!

How to let go of limiting beliefs

Letting go of your limiting belief may seem challenging at first.

Become aware of patterns that are repeating themselves over and over again. Awareness is the first step towards self-love.

In order to become aware, begin by being mindful. Mindfulness is simply a practice of observing thoughts and feelings as they arise without judgement or attachment.

This can be done through meditation. Meditation is the best way for us to take time out of our day to just be! The more we meditate, the less stressed we will feel about life events because where we put our attention, energy goes. So, letting the thoughts, emotions and body sensations come up and feeling them fully as they come along is the way to move through them. All of these are only temporary situations which give us learning experiences.

Letting go of your limiting belief becomes easier with time. You notice where you have been holding onto a belief and start to have curiosity about it, it’s all in how you approach each situation with an open mind.

When you become more aware of your thoughts and the emotions that come with them, you can start to change the way you react to certain situations.

It’s all about training your brain to move through inner conflict and get to a state of peace and love no matter what is happening around you. This mind-clearing technique takes a bit of practice but it is definitely worth it!

The benefits are amazing! You will feel lighter, happier, and more content with life once you let go of those limiting beliefs and start reclaiming your true self