Episode 73 Embracing Scrumptious Intimacy: Uncovering Pleasure with Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton

On: Apr 9, 2024

Hello there, lovely listeners, and welcome back to another fabulous episode of The Scrumptious Woman! I’m absolutely thrilled to be here today with the incredible Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton. She’s not only an intimacy coach but also the epitome of scrumptiousness herself, teaching us all about pleasure and intimacy in such a refreshing way. So, welcome, Kimberly!

Summary:

In this episode, Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton and I embark on an illuminating conversation about the significance of embracing pleasure, intimacy, and self-care in our lives.

We explore the societal conditioning that often undermines the importance of prioritizing our own joy and fulfillment, especially for women. Through candid anecdotes and insightful reflections, Dr. Pendleton shares invaluable wisdom on navigating the journey of self-discovery and healing, debunking myths, and reclaiming our inherent worthiness.

We discuss the transformative power of inner work, the intersection of pleasure and business growth, and the role of healthy boundaries in nurturing fulfilling relationships.

Ultimately, this episode serves as a rallying call for embracing our authenticity, reclaiming our agency, and honouring our innate desires to lead scrumptious lives.

Key Takeaways:

Embracing Pleasure: Dr. Pendleton highlights the importance of prioritizing pleasure and sensuality as integral aspects of self-care and empowerment.
Revolutionizing Inner Work: We delve into the transformative journey of inner work, challenging societal norms, and reclaiming our autonomy in shaping our lives.
Pleasure in Business: We explore the symbiotic relationship between pleasure, healing, and business growth, emphasizing the magnetic allure of authenticity and self-empowerment in entrepreneurial ventures.
Navigating Relationships: Dr. Pendleton shares insights on establishing healthy boundaries, fostering deeper connections, and honouring our worthiness in relationships.

Tune in to this enlightening episode as we embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and embracing the scrumptious essence of life!

Resources Links:

Connect with Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton : 
 
You can connect with Kimberly via her link tree https://linktr.ee/drkimberlyrose  where you’ll find a wealth of resources, including articles, courses, and information about how to work with Kimberly one-on-one.
 
She is also quite active on social media, particularly Instagram and Twitter, where you can find her @DrKimberlyRose. 
 
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Transcription:

The Scrumptious Woman EP73

[00:00:00] Juliette Karaman: Good evening, good afternoon, good morning to another episode of The Scrumptious Woman. I am so happy to have with me Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton. You are an intimacy coach and you scrumptious woman that I know. And really embody, what it is to teach intimacy, pleasure, and how to bring that to the world. So welcome.

[00:00:26] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: Thank you so much. Thank you so much for having me.

[00:00:30] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: I cannot imagine a more perfect podcast to get to be on than the scrumptious woman. It just feels yes, I’m home. This is where we belong, both of

[00:00:40] Juliette Karaman: us. And it’s funny because I named it scrumptious because I got kicked off Instagram with pleasure when I used to use pleasure, the word pleasure, a lot.

[00:00:51] Juliette Karaman: Totally. Autism and everything. I’m like, oh, scrumptious is the right name for

[00:00:56] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: me. Yeah, turn to the thesaurus. It’s true. It really has gotten so much more draconian. I used to be able to say sensuality and pleasure, and now both of those words get me flagged. And it’s just, I think testament to why our work is so needed.

[00:01:16] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: It’s wow, this is really, it is like radical work, even though it may seem I don’t know. Frivolous to some people. It’s this is getting us kicked off the internet. So something’s going on here.

[00:01:31] Juliette Karaman: And I love that, that you’re actually naming it, right? Making it real. Yeah. Where people are like what do you mean intimacy work?

[00:01:37] Juliette Karaman: And how do you mean work? And how is that going to change the world? And, look at what’s happening in the Middle East. Look at what’s happening in Africa. Look at what’s happening, in all the world. There are people dying left and center. So you’re talking about. Frivolous.

[00:01:52] Juliette Karaman: Yet, I know that you have an explanation, so do I, but I’m gonna ask

[00:01:55] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: you for yours. Yes, no, I think it’s such a good, like you said, just to tackle it head on and to be willing to be with those questions, but I like to ask myself when that pops up, who really benefits from me not thinking my pleasure matters?

[00:02:18] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: Or like systemically, if most women, because most of my clients grew up with some way, shape or form of that messaging, whether it came from religion or society or work, like your pleasure is not important. And I think Who’s winning with that? If that’s how we’re thinking and what does it make us easier to control around?

[00:02:42] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: I think about If it’s just a generation of exhausted women who have worked ourselves to the bone, we’re a lot easier to manipulate and sell to and override. And we’re certainly not going to be starting any kind of massive movements, right? Because we’re like literally too tired and under resourced.

[00:03:05] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: And so I like to think about how. Part of our part of the revolution is that self care, so that we can show up and do all the other parts too. Write the books, host the podcast, do the coaching, and really take a stand. But if we’re too depleted, Or we think our voice doesn’t matter, we’re not going to do anything.

[00:03:32] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: And then the people in power, mostly men, stay in power, right? It’s like not the world that we’re here for.

[00:03:41] Juliette Karaman: Completely. And that’s the whole thing, right? Where we we see it now so much in government and in, governments everywhere. It’s oh, yeah, the world is waking up. Not just the governments, but the world is waking up, and I love seeing the youngsters, like I’ve got four kids in their early 20s, and I just see where all of a sudden they’ve woken up.

[00:04:05] Juliette Karaman: Of course it helped me as a mother, that kind of helped.

[00:04:07] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: True, that probably did give them quite a head start.

[00:04:11] Juliette Karaman: I used to walk around with a t shirt saying the pussy knows and the boys are

[00:04:14] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: like totally. But still, it’s still so true. There’s so much

[00:04:19] Juliette Karaman: hope. It’s hey, we don’t want to be put in this box and be this.

[00:04:24] Juliette Karaman: There’s so much more to the world. There’s so much more to us. There’s so much more to us as an infinite being. We’re not just, a woman or a man or binary or whatever we are and be slotted in those little boxes.

[00:04:37] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: A hundred percent. And there is something about, probably both of us work mostly with that slightly older generation, but their kids and like my younger siblings and college students are starting to just break free from some of it.

[00:04:57] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: And they may not, we may not even need to do this work in two more generations, and that would be great.

[00:05:06] Juliette Karaman: Completely. And, but that’s it, right? Once we start waking up to the totality of who we are, what pleasure actually means, what does it feel like in our body? And, Most people are like, Oh my God, that means sex.

[00:05:19] Juliette Karaman: It’s brings you joy? What’s your scrumptious? What has your body light up? It doesn’t have to be sex. You want it to be sex. Perfect. But let it just be like, let’s come back, sensations, breath to the warmth, the temperature. Oh my

[00:05:36] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: God. I could not agree more. All right.

[00:05:38] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: Even. Plugging back in to what feels good, which can be so challenging for so many of my clients, especially if we internalized a message that if it feels good, it might be bad. Like it’s dangerous or it’s sinful or frivolous, like we were saying, or indulgent. So it’s even just trying to reprogram your mind a little bit of if it feels good, More of that, rather than if it feels good oh no, alarm bells run away, it feels like even that sort of five degree shift can be huge.

[00:06:19] Juliette Karaman: Completely. And that’s it, what you’re saying, the programming, what have we been taught? Yeah. You’ve delved deep into religion and that you’ve really done your research there. Yeah. Yeah. But. Could you take our listeners, I know a lot of people that aren’t listening to this know this, but still, what are like two, three things that mythbusters?

[00:06:41] Juliette Karaman: Let’s do a few of them. Oh,

[00:06:42] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendleton: I love that invitation. Here’s one, and I’d love to hear what you think about this, but I had this myth running the show for myself, but I was worried, especially at the very beginning of this work, that if I were to start to listen to pleasure, I would unleash some kind of like monster in myself.

[00:07:07] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: It would be like, if I open that door just even a little bit, this. Lazy, hungry slutty beast would come out and I would not be able to control myself. I think that there was almost this feeling of discipline keeps everything in line and who knows what would happen if I were to start to listen to my pleasure instead.

[00:07:34] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And that is just not what I’ve ever seen happen with the women I’ve worked with. It’s Instead, they show up more for their real life because they’re filled up, because they’ve had, whether it’s a little dose of pleasure or they’re remaking their whole lives, but they don’t tend to want to run away from their family, abandon their children, and go live on a hedonist farm in like Bohemia or whatever.

[00:08:05] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: It’s like they just are happier in Regular life. And, of course, sometimes massive change is needed, but it just, it wasn’t what I thought. I was worried, I’d be just totally feral or wild if I let that out at all. And instead, I find it’s made me You know, I’m more present, I’m more committed, I’m like, a softer presence, which I think is the opposite of what we’re worried about.

[00:08:38] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And it’s definitely the opposite of what’s preached, at church or something. It’s beware, this is gonna set off, yeah, like you saw what happened in the Garden of Eden woman eats apple, unleashes evil and world, just like. There is this embedded, especially in any kind of Christian tradition I find, embedded storyline that like women following Their hunger, you ate that apple, it leads to total chaos for all humanity.

[00:09:12] Juliette Karaman: And it’s so interesting where that has been programmed in Christianity from very early on. If you look at most, Abrahamic religions, and you’re more of the expert on this but really being programmed in, right? Yes. Pleasure. Really be contained. Everything.

[00:09:32] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: 100%. Yeah, I was actually really, I shouldn’t have been so shocked, but I was shocked by how consistent the stories were when I started working with a client who is living in a Muslim country and grew up Muslim and clients who are Jewish.

[00:09:50] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And it was like, Oh, there’s no escape. Everyone got the message that women’s sexuality and women’s pleasure is something to hide and something to tame. And it was like, Oh wow, even outside of my own tradition, I speak this language because purity culture sort of has its fingers in everything trying to control us.

[00:10:17] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: But you and I are good examples. Untamed women are really fun.

[00:10:23] Juliette Karaman: And it’s funny, right? Because I talked to my clients and I’ve got a VIP client coming tomorrow to do some, VIP day and it’s one of my favorite ways to spend time. And still there’s that little masculine mind in me going Oh my God, what am I going to do if I have to really make it?

[00:10:41] Juliette Karaman: And that’s, a mother of four kids and,

[00:10:44] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: yeah. Sure, yeah. You’re like, somebody needs to run a house with seven children. So it’s oh my god, yes,

[00:10:50] Juliette Karaman: yeah. Relax. Nah. That’s exactly what we’re not going to do. And I, of course I have everything pretty much planned out, but it’s not to

[00:10:59] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: the book.

[00:11:00] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: I know what you mean. Yeah, I think back once to a VIP day I did with a mentor, Who I love and I totally respect still, but we have very different styles. And she had the day very planned. There was a lot of Excel sheets and like mapping out and lead gen and all this stuff. And even at the time. I knew this was like five years ago, but it was like, I had the sense that I’m not going to be doing any of this that we’re like planning.

[00:11:33] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: But the fact that we’re sitting in this really beautiful hotel, the fact that we’re having champagne at lunch, the little edges of the conversation around dreaming about my brand and my business. Even like her outfit, like it all left such an impression on me, just the feeling. And I think about that when I run my own VIP days and think first of all, I still got what I needed, right?

[00:11:59] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: So that’s nice. It’s if that makes her feel good, great. Yeah, we can open Excel. But also just oh, they’re just Calibrating to the essence of you, like that, just you being you is so the gift.

[00:12:18] Juliette Karaman: And that is the most beautiful gift that we can give anyone, right? And that’s intimacy work. Yeah. How can we be so intimate with ourselves?

[00:12:28] Juliette Karaman: Yeah. To the world and invite them in. It’s this is me. Yeah. And this is me. And when you come into that world, Yeah. And more you,

[00:12:38] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: too. Yes. I love that. I love that. Ugh. And it’s such a perfect moment in the world’s history. history it feels for this work to be getting more and more mainstream.

[00:12:55] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Obviously we’re not mainstream enough to not get censored on social media, but still it is so powerful to know we’re not alone. There are so many women stepping into this work, claiming this heritage and like ready to be those kind of pleasure, sensuality goddesses who I think You know, I think we knew Oh, this timeline, they’re going to need us.

[00:13:23] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: They’re going to need some help getting back here. And I picture all of us being like, all right, we’re reporting for duty. Yes, send us in.

[00:13:32] Juliette Karaman: So if you. Could, if you just think back at, say, I don’t know, five or 10 years ago, look at your young you. Yeah. What would you say to people that may be slightly burned out, tired?

[00:13:49] Juliette Karaman: What would you say to a client that’s just coming to you? And you’re like, what are three, four things that you can just say or the things that we can slow down to actually feel? Yeah.

[00:14:00] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: I love that. One is a little bit more heavy, but it is just so true. I would say we’re usually running from something when we’re moving that fast.

[00:14:12] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And it is why, there’s such a duality in my work. And I know in yours too, where it’s yes, the pleasure and the depth and trauma work, because it’s like, what are we hiding from? And usually underneath that roadrunner speed is some kind of intimacy wound, some kind of trauma response.

[00:14:36] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Sometimes it’s from our lineage, money work that our family needed to do or what we’ve inherited. And then often it’s because, we were in a society where women have to do so much. So either way, starting to say. If we slow this down, what are you feeling and what have you been afraid to feel?

[00:15:00] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Now we’re in a space where you could, we could look at it. And then obviously pairing that with lots of pleasure. And that’s basically my secret. Although it’s not a secret. We can all talk about it, but my secret where it’s I’ve done a lot of trauma work where you just go deep into the darkness. And it can shut your system down because it’s so much.

[00:15:27] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And so when I started to bring pleasure in, almost to help titrate as we would go, it was like, oh, if we’re going to have this hard conversation, we’re going to do it in a beautiful place. We’re going to put something really soft and comforting on, be surrounded by beauty. Things that help soothe the nervous system and we can actually go deeper.

[00:15:52] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: It’s actually my favorite thing about VIP days because it’s okay, great. Now we’re like surrounded by pleasure. We’re embedded in it. There’s nowhere to go but deep. This is perfect. And then, I think the other thing I would say Is that it’s like intuitively we know this, but I think it’s still nice to hear it verbalized just that it’s not linear.

[00:16:17] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: That there may be, I have this process uncover and I teach it in this course, the uncover course. And you would think it would be like, you start module one and then you get to module 10 and then you’re done. Like you’re uncovered, tada. And instead, that

[00:16:34] Juliette Karaman: would be nice, but

[00:16:36] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: like we wish instead, it’s even in my own life Oh, back to module one for me let me go again.

[00:16:46] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Let me go deeper. And even if it feels like we’re heading up against something we’ve already looked at around self love or pleasure or worthiness, it’s I’m approaching this same thing from a different part of me now. I’m not just going here to here. I’m like, spiraling deeper and deeper.

[00:17:08] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And so I would just prep myself that it’s gonna feel like maybe you’re going backwards, but you’re really going down. And that’s actually so beautiful. And it means, it means I can turn around and help other people come with me, I think, in a different way. If it were just like, Oh, that?

[00:17:30] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Oh, yeah, I fixed that 10 years ago. And I was like, Never thought about it since. I don’t know how helpful a coach I’d be, I’d be like, okay, and it’s so

[00:17:41] Juliette Karaman: true we go through the same same little loop. I like my intro. And then we get down a little, one step forward, three steps back, four steps forward, one step back.

[00:17:53] Juliette Karaman: And it’s that constant, it’s oh, we might just go through it a bit quicker. It’s I recognize that. It’s I recognize that. But I also know the way out. And your body also starts rewiring, putting them in pathways where it’s actually, it’s Oh, I don’t have to get stuck there anymore. It’s like, all right, we’re out of it already.

[00:18:11] Juliette Karaman: And that’s the bit where we help others with that.

[00:18:16] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Yeah, it’s absolutely right. And I think it may be comforting to see the quote unquote experts leading themselves through the work again and just being like this isn’t something we just finish. It’s a way of being with ourselves. And once you learn the tools, you can’t unlearn them.

[00:18:39] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: They’re yours. And so you just get to keep.

[00:18:43] Juliette Karaman: We’re unlearning some other things.

[00:18:44] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Exactly.

[00:18:45] Juliette Karaman: And that is the thing that I tell my clients from time to time. They’re like, I’ve worked a few for X amount of months. It’s like nothing has changed. And then I’ll pull up their intake form. Yeah. Let’s actually just look at where you were.

[00:18:59] Juliette Karaman: I love that.

[00:19:01] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Oh. It’s that just so resonates. Yeah.

[00:19:06] Juliette Karaman: But then most of their people around their world are like, who are you? You’ve

[00:19:10] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: changed so much. I like to say it feels like nothing’s happening until you realize everything is different. And it sounds like that is the same transformation in your world too, where it’s just like these little softenings, these little openings, but to someone else, you are So much more magnetic, so much more vibrant and present and grounded and open.

[00:19:35] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: They can feel it

[00:19:37] Juliette Karaman: completely. So what are some of the fears that you came up against and that your clients come up against? Cause it’s Oh yeah, this magnetic pleasure.

[00:19:47] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Why would anyone not do this? Yeah. I think a huge fear, and I’d be interested to hear what you think about this, I wonder about feeling worthy of investing in this piece.

[00:20:04] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: What’s interesting, this is a sidebar, but I have yet to have a husband of a client not want her to do this work. I think because they want their partner back, like they see it and are like, Oh, maybe I get to have more sex first of all. So I hear here’s the credit card versus some of the other coaching investments where he might roll his eyes a little bit.

[00:20:30] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: So that’s been funny, but it’s the opposite for the women in my world who are often like, first, I need to work on my business. First, I need to make more money. First, I need to hire. Someone to do my social media or something like that. I have a lot of entrepreneur clients and I get it. And it’s so backwards because that fantasy that we would get everything else in place, money and business.

[00:21:03] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: But not have to do the inner work and maybe come to that later at the end. At least I will say it’s not how my business growth worked. I did the opposite and it was like the magnetism overflows out into the business anyway. And I think Uncover’s steady stream of seven figure years isn’t from business.

[00:21:30] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Strategy, even though of course I have some, but it like doesn’t matter what it is. It could have been anything. It’s me. And so what I wish I could say is, I think that’s a version of worrying it’s frivolous. Like business stuff is serious. This stuff is just for me. It’s frivolous. And I think what I would say is there is no better investment in your business than like this work that will make you irresistible.

[00:21:59] Juliette Karaman: And isn’t it funny that often is the fear. It’s oh no, my business needs to work well. Totally. I run a mastermind and it’s all about, scrumptious visibility. It’s all about being visible. Yes. And the stuff that is the most important is, yes, I give some strategy, but it’s actually just healing and moving that energy through.

[00:22:19] Juliette Karaman: So I do attunements with them. We work on that kind of stuff. We actually feel the pleasure. And then it’s New clients, obviously, new engagement. A

[00:22:28] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: hundred percent. Oh.

[00:22:31] Juliette Karaman: Weird, I’m like, that’s what it is, right?

[00:22:35] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Gosh, I know. And it, That sounds like the perfect blend where they can almost tell themselves it’ll be the one and get both because I do think it feels scary to just jump in and say, okay, like I’m ready to be scrumptious.

[00:22:55] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: I’m ready to get uncovered. It’s That feels so vulnerable.

[00:22:59] Juliette Karaman: Completely. And I love where you said the husband’s often We’ll give the credit card. Here you go, darling.

[00:23:06] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: You see it, right?

[00:23:08] Juliette Karaman: Interesting. One of the clients that I work with, her husband is Oh my God, you terrified of me. Or, so she says, I’m like, are you like, terrified of me?

[00:23:17] Juliette Karaman: I’m like, there’s nothing to be terrified of. It’s I don’t know. Once you open blood, that would be warm.

[00:23:22] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: He should hire you. Yeah. Yeah. I think that does get at one of the other fears, which I think connects to the one that I had too, which is who will I be on the other side of this?

[00:23:37] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And the truth is that’s legit. Sometimes it does mean women make some radical changes. I would argue they’re always for the best for everyone, but not everybody may feel that way. If you’re in a lot of dynamics where people have been maybe overtaking from you and you’re somebody who’s been picking up all the pieces and, Managing relationships for your parents and your siblings and, it’s if you start putting in some boundaries, I think that’s for the best for all of them, but they may be a little like, what the hell?

[00:24:20] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: What happened to our doormat who we could always walk all over? But my hope would be eventually they would see it. And they would see, this is permission for me too.

[00:24:33] Juliette Karaman: I remember when I started getting into this after spending nine months in hospital, in and out of hospital, because I kept fainting.

[00:24:39] Juliette Karaman: It’s okay, something’s gotta be

[00:24:42] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: wrong with my body. Oh my gosh, your body was going like hello. Yeah.

[00:24:46] Juliette Karaman: And I remember my kids at one point saying, Oh, mommy, you’re so selfish that you’re doing these courses. And you’re saying no. And I’m like, I spent nine months in hospital. I can do something now.

[00:24:56] Juliette Karaman: So

[00:24:57] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: time on me. Yes. And those nine months in the hospital are such evidence of what happens when we don’t.

[00:25:04] Juliette Karaman: And now I notice it every time that something comes up, I’m like, Oh, okay, time to slow down. And this is for my clients. It’s okay, when that niggle comes up, when there’s some, when your health and your body is screaming at you.

[00:25:18] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: 100%. 100%. Yeah, that’s huge. And I think that is, it’s a little bit of a scary angle, but it’s completely true. I think another thing I would say is you can either do this work now when it’s optional, or we can do it later when it’s not, but either way, just, I have a similar story. So many of my clients have a similar story.

[00:25:48] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Our body will get our attention when it’s like running on fumes.

[00:25:54] Juliette Karaman: And that’s it because we’ve lived disconnected from our bodies, yeah? Yeah. With the structure going

[00:25:59] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: and

[00:26:00] Juliette Karaman: now, you are pretty newly married.

[00:26:03] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Yes, one year.

[00:26:05] Juliette Karaman: I know, congratulations, isn’t it? Thank

[00:26:07] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: you.

[00:26:08] Juliette Karaman: What does he think of all of this? He knows. Yeah. Journey, right?

[00:26:14] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Yeah, great question. He is so supportive. I will say, it wasn’t his world. Some coaches that I see, their partners are coaches too, and they’re like, co leading, ayahuasca retreats in the jungle and stuff together, taking naked photos together in the vines.

[00:26:32] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: I love that. That’s not my partner. He is the study. Drumbeat, with the like stable, normal life. And then I’m like, one bring, yeah, a little bit of wildness. But I, just last night I was saying like, oh, I can tell you opened all my emails. Like you click on all the links. Like he’s so present for me and so supportive.

[00:27:00] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Even when he’ll be like, I know this isn’t for me, but. I love that you’re doing this. And I think in particular, he has really seen. Even with some of his friends and his sisters who’ve dabbled a little bit in my work like ways that It can really open up even someone who wasn’t all the way in this world, even just a regular, normal human but who starts to be like, oh, maybe I could have more.

[00:27:32] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: There are some compromises. I would probably show him online every day. He’s so hot. I would be like, here’s a live cam of Nick and he does not allow that. And I do ask when I use his picture, I like get approval. I don’t think everybody is like quite that, vigilant, but we joke like he should be getting royalties.

[00:27:55] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Marketing fees. Since I’m, especially in my courses on relationships, it’s always pictures of him. But I did ask, I was like you don’t want me taking photos with some other man, I’m assuming,

[00:28:08] Juliette Karaman: beautiful, right? And we use our partner for that. Yeah, mine’s a lawyer, so he’s I

[00:28:13] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: know. I think that it’s so good for them to have us.

[00:28:17] Juliette Karaman: Yeah, and it’s just, it’s interesting, right? The it’s that intimacy that we have with partners that we can actually bring to the outside, but also with parents, siblings, for me, my kids, right? It’s just Mommy, you’re doing all this work, but yeah, bring it out. And in the beginning, it was a bit of getting used to.

[00:28:37] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Oh my gosh, it’s so true. I, It’s sometimes hard for me to remember, but at the beginning I had my parents blocked and I was like using I was so hiding, sign up for my course and delete the post. Just so scared of being seen. And now it does feel, six years later or whatever, it feels like my energy is much more come on in, like it’s okay.

[00:29:04] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: And I’ve noticed Such a deeper intimacy, especially with my family, the less I’ve hidden myself, which seems so obvious, I really thought the way to be close would be to perform and stay in the box. And luckily I was so wrong. It’s like the more weird And wild I am. And the more they can know that part of me, like the more intimate our relationship is.

[00:29:37] Juliette Karaman: I love it. And this is obviously what you teach your clients as well, that come to you for business advice. And that’s it. Be yourself on social media, on podcasts, everywhere. And that will attract people that like you. Have your dislikes and be vocal about it. I know that you’re supporting a lot of the political stuff as well.

[00:30:00] Juliette Karaman: Supporting, opposing. I’m like, yes, we get to know. It’s yes. Yes. Or no,

[00:30:06] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: I’ll pass. Exactly. Exactly. Yeah, and I don’t say this to cause any ruffle any feathers, but just this morning you might have seen this, but I was reflecting in my little Facebook group on some things I’ve seen recently that are not quite as serious as that, but posting don’t be funny in your content, don’t use emojis if you want to be taken seriously, and I was thinking In case anyone needs permission, you can just be fully yourself.

[00:30:37] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: I think emojis are so fun, and I use them all the time, and I’m not always being funny, but occasionally that’s woven in on purpose, because that is part of who I am, and just I love reminding myself and my audience nothing has disqualified me from running a million dollar business. I got to be myself a little bit messy, a little bit hard to wrangle.

[00:31:09] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: My team, thank God for them, they’re mostly here managing my executive dysfunction. But it’s just, none of it has meant I couldn’t have this happily ever after romance and this really steady, stable business that You know, it’s like the dream come true for me.

[00:31:30] Juliette Karaman: Isn’t that beautiful?

[00:31:32] Juliette Karaman: And isn’t that what we all want? A business where we can be ourselves. Pure connection is what I keep hearing. Giving it’s like permission. In relationships, whether that’s in business, whether that’s in whatever your issues, trauma, sexuality, centrality, politics, religion, permission.

[00:31:52] Juliette Karaman: Yeah. So beautiful. Kimberly, tell me, how do people get in touch with you? I know that you have a ton of courses. It’s

[00:32:01] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: true. I’ve got a lot to say. As you can see, we’re very chatty. Could probably podcast for hours with you. But I would love to invite everyone to my Facebook group if they’re interested.

[00:32:14] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: It’s called Pleasure is Power. Very right up your alley. And I have my favorite free course pinned in there so that people can get started. It’s called Upgrade Your Love Life. And it really, I love it.

[00:32:30] Juliette Karaman: Amazing. So on Facebook, we will put everything in the show notes. Your website, we’ll put it in there as well.

[00:32:38] Juliette Karaman: Thank you so much for being on. It’s been an absolute pleasure.

[00:32:43] Dr Kimberly Rose Pendelton: Oh, thank you for having me. To be continued.

[00:32:46] Juliette Karaman: Absolutely. Much love. Bye.

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