Episode 50 Unlock Your True Potential: Navigating Choice Points and Rewiring Your Mind with Colleen Aloian

On: Dec 29, 2023

Welcome to another enlightening episode of  “The Scrumptious Woman”!

In this episode, Juliette Karaman is joined by the incredible Colleen Aloian, a teacher, healer, and therapist with over a decade of experience. Colleen shares her journey and the transformative power of her Zero Impact Method.

Colleen’s Zero Impact Method delves into releasing past experiences, allowing them to have zero impact on your present. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the stories we create about ourselves and how they shape our perceptions. The conversation unfolds into the power of choice points, where conscious decisions lead to personal evolution.

The dialogue touches on relationships and how shifting focus from what’s lacking to what’s present can redefine perceptions. Colleen beautifully navigates the intricacies of rewiring the brain and releasing stored trauma from the body.

The episode concludes with a powerful reminder of intention setting and the profound impact it can have on personal growth. Colleen encourages listeners to embrace choice points, recognizing them as opportunities for positive transformation.

Join Juliette and Colleen on this illuminating journey to discover and unlock your true potential.

Key Takeaways:

  • Explore the Zero Impact Method to release past experiences’ grip on your present.
  • Understand the stories you create about yourself and their impact on your perceptions.
  • Embrace choice points as opportunities for positive transformation.
  • Shift focus in relationships from lack to abundance.
  • Rewire the brain and release stored trauma for personal evolution.
  • Set intentions for profound and intentional personal growth.

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The Scrumptious Woman EP50

Fri, Dec 22, 2023 5:28PM • 30:31

SUMMARY KEYWORDS

people, realised, box, change, story, love, created, feel, colleen, light, points, beautiful, talking, experience, release, therapist, energy, trauma, noticing, killian

SPEAKERS

Juliette Karaman, Colleen Aloian

Juliette Karaman  00:00

Welcome my lovelies. We are back to the scrumptious woman and I have with me my beautiful channel sister. We’ve been together in a mastermind together, Colleen Aloian, and she is a teacher, a healer, a therapist, and for over 10 years, Colleen has offered her services as a licenced mental health counsellor. She’s always been a pioneer in her field supporting therapists and deepening their skills providing training and creating programmes to serve clients. In 2018. While working with the New York Army National Guard, Colleen received an achievement award for providing world class support, expertise, innovative ideas and dedication.

Juliette Karaman  00:49

And in 2021, she felt the calling to step into her true nature of being a healer and a channel. With her deep understanding of how past experiences create vast limitations on our brain, body and energy. Colleen created her zero impact method, and a four part framework for authentic success and true wealth. She uses her gifts to see people as their whole potential selves and to guide them in rapidly releasing any false identity while attuning to their inner light. Our clients feel a born a new, they are returning home to what was always in sight of them, awakening their light and aligning with their divine purpose.

Juliette Karaman  01:37

I love this you guide woman all over the world in rapidly releasing internal barriers, claiming their uniqueness, feeling liberation after liberation, and elevating their frequency to magnify their desires with their own pure light. Welcome.

Juliette Karaman  01:55

Thank you for being here Collean.

Colleen Aloian  01:57

So happy that I am here. Thank you so much. It is an absolute delight. It’s been really beautiful seeing you grow and blossom and really become that that confident light that is pulling people in and that is helping others. It’s been quite a journey. I really Yeah, I see it.

Juliette Karaman  02:20

So you have been doing this work for over 10 years. And yet the last few years, you’ve kind of like taken a different direction.

Colleen Aloian  02:28

Definitely.

Juliette Karaman  02:30

Do you want to tell me about that a little bit.

Colleen Aloian  02:33

Yes. So thank you for that I started. I actually started as a teacher. And then I became a therapist. And I did that for a little over 10 years and still doing that. And when I entered Melania and layers world, there was all of this talk about energetics and this new stuff that was just the way that I felt it was the missing piece that people need it. Right. And so.

Colleen Aloian  03:05

So it’s a part of therapy that doesn’t get touched. It feels like you know, spirituality talking about your soul talking about your inner being talking about your energy. All of that is is like the integral part to change that is not being mentioned out there. And that just once it once that landed for me, it just catapulted everything. And it’s funny because when you ask for the change, when you ask for the ascension, it always comes with the inner work first. And then outer work right.

Juliette Karaman  03:45

Now, I’ve had loads of people talk about this, but for the people that may just come across your episodes like we hear this, do the inner work, and then the outer work, the outer world will change. Do you want to just specify what it meant for you? How that showed up in your life?

Colleen Aloian  04:07

Yeah, so for me, I thought that I had been doing the inner work, right? Because I was doing all the therapies and all the things on myself and seeing myself in my clients and then doing that work as it was coming up. But then something shifted when I realised how energy comes into play. And I really started to be more conscious about my role in my own life. And instead of seeing people as outside of me, I started to see people as mirrors for me, right? So now something that just dropped for me last week was what I’m now calling choice points. Because as I look upon my journey, what I’m realising is that

Colleen Aloian  05:00

I’ve been so conscious in so many moments that I’ve created the moments as choice points. And what I mean by this is, I had a choice to either stay in my old story, from this past experience that I’ve created this story about that I made, it means something about me, and I have this thought about it, and I have this feeling about it. And I can either stay with that, or I can not judge it. And I can decide to choose a different thought, and a different feeling and create a different potential.

Colleen Aloian  05:39

And that was just a different outcome. I’m loving.

Juliette Karaman  05:44

I love it choice points. And I kind of feel like like, they’re almost like stepping stones, right? They’re like stepping stones to the new you. Because you have that point of choice where it’s like, oh, I can let go of all the charge of all the interference that is keeping me tied to my past, because we both work with trauma we know that is, that’s the stuff that keeps us in the past, right and looped in the past and embodied use, often it it gets ingrained in the body. But then if we actually can make sure that we don’t have that energetic interference anymore, then we can use those choice points, as you call them as our little stepping points across the pond. Yes,

Colleen Aloian  06:30

exactly. And I was with I ran an intensive retreat this past weekend, and one of the movies at the retreat. I was talking to her about choice points and picking a new story. And she said to me, Oh, who will I be without that story? Yes. And for me, it was like such a deep the potential that’s there, right? Like, you’re never going to see the potential or get to the potential as long as you’re holding on to that story so tightly and making it define you.

Juliette Karaman  07:04

That’s that’s the beauty white what you’re saying that it’s like, the real honest truth, saying, but who am I going to be? It’s going to be a place of space of newness of unknown, which is terrifying for a lot of people. At least, we know the familiar. And even though the foreign pain financially, emotionally, physically, whatever, we know that. So then to be without that we’re in the unknown. It’s like, and then what identity are we going to have if we lose our identity, our personality, and we can just be that pure energy. It’s it’s a hello, scary, you know, a lot of people are not, not always prepared to go there.

Colleen Aloian  07:51

Yeah, so it’s accepting that things might change, but the trust, right, like having that spiritual intimacy with the universe, God, whatever you want to call it, so that you can trust that you will always be supported on your journey. And that’s how we, it’s

Juliette Karaman  08:10

been my story as well. And I see that you’re helping so many others, so I might as well. And I see that we’re also the switch of teacher, therapist, coach, and now what do you call yourself doesn’t even matter.

Colleen Aloian  08:30

Though funny, you know, I’m me. When we’ve done so many things, it’s like, we’re not a thing. Like there’s not a name for it anymore. You know, like, because there’s just so much in the background and so much that is the culmination, like the work is the culmination of all the things right, that’s what makes us experts, because like your background, you’ve done X, Y and Z, right? And now it’s not that you’re doing x with people or Y with people, it’s that you’re doing X, Y and Z. And that’s how I feel like titles, titles, I feel Pharaoh was in the boxes and because it’s not the totality of who we are

Juliette Karaman  09:21

completely and it’s I love that you use the word box because I use that very often and especially when when I was married and I used to spend four months in Lebanon and people would love to box me in to kind of like understand where can we play sir in in my in their world it’s like a case if you’re a Muslim woman or if you’re married to a Muslim man, it means you must have converted you’ve got kids that are Muslim names. So you must have converted so your your ex, or if you’re Chris, you and your wife but what if you don’t believe in any of the religious but yet you’re very spirituality so that was like A girl mindfuck. For them, I’m just like, does it make me better human? If I’m Muslim, if I’m Christian, if I’m a theist, if I’m if I’m spiritual, I’m like, what about we just take all these boxes away and see us for the vibration for, for that light that we are. And that is for really annoying people.

Colleen Aloian  10:23

But it’s true for all light, and we’re all one. So why are we creating boxes to separate ourselves?

Juliette Karaman  10:31

And especially now with what’s going on? Right? Where the world is, we get pulled into war and atrocities all over the world. And at the moment there, there’s lots going on in the Middle East, but it’s kind of like so where is one life more important than another life? And this we have seen all through history. Right? Where is it that whatever religion you’ve been born in whatever country you’ve been born in whatever, race, colour, ethnicity, it is, that those are all boxes, once we can jump out of those boxes, once we can actually dissolve those boxes, and find connection, find that intimate connection with others, we might butt heads a little bit, and then get rid of that energy that is actually in between the connection in between the intimacy, because we’re all here, because we want that into us, we want to feel

Colleen Aloian  11:31

whole with others. Right. And going back to what we were talking about earlier, with stories and choice points. If you keep yourself in the box of your story, then you’re not going to evolve, right? And you’re gonna stay in your own box with your own ceiling on top of the box that you’ve made for yourself. Just

Juliette Karaman  11:57

isn’t it great, right? Even like ceiling glass ceilings woman and glass ceilings and in, in big companies that they can only get so much pay raise and cycle what if that wasn’t the story? What if that wasn’t the narrative? What if you didn’t take on that persona of being a female that can’t earn as much as a male counterpart? Who will you be then?

Colleen Aloian  12:25

What is possible then? Right. And it’s really about shedding all of these stories. Because everything is a story, everything. And when you think about the story, there’s also the judgement that’s attached to it. And when you can release the judgement of the thing, right? Like you were saying, like, because you’re a woman, or because of the ceiling, you’re, you’re judging that and therefore creating the box.

Juliette Karaman  12:54

Completely, I love this. So we’re both at this point, or like, take lots of boxes, back and now we’re coming out of the box, we don’t want to take any tick anymore. And, and just where it becomes, like you said, a mixture of all of the tools that we have created. And then you come up with what works best now for your clients for yourself. And I know that you have your zero impact map method, or they’re just called the zero impact way, whatever.

Colleen Aloian  13:28

Method Yes. Method. Okay.

Juliette Karaman  13:31

Method, will you walk us through that a little bit? Sure.

Colleen Aloian  13:36

Um, as you know, every every story, every past experience has, you know, like an image about the thing. It has a thought associated with it, it has a feeling associated with it’s stored in your body. And so if, if you’re thinking of a past experience, and that past experience is still bothering you, it’s technically a trauma. And so this is something that a lot of people aren’t realising about trauma. They think traumas is big thing that has to happen, or they think I don’t have any childhood trauma, my life was great. We lived in a big house to get all the things we needed. Okay, but like, where are you emotionally getting the things that you need it right. So the zero impact method takes all of the experience and we leave this session where the experience has zero impact on you anymore. So when you think about it, it doesn’t bother you. The thought that you created about yourself is gone. And now you’re fully confident in your being and you’re realising that this experience you were taking it personally and it had nothing to do with you and you start to see the other person through a lens of compassion. And then the last step is we’re just releasing the trauma from your body so that your body can start to feel safe so your body can get rid of any pain that it’s holding. Right? So it’s really like a rewiring of the brain and energetic release, and then a body releases. Well.

Juliette Karaman  15:22

I love it. It’s so similar to something that I do. And you know, that’s probably based on the same thing. So it’s all it’s super cool. When that we all this is one of the beautiful things, right? We all get these downloads from the universe. It’s like, oh, and then we think we’re the only one. And then actually, we start seeing more people’s like, Oh, you got the same one. And you’ve put your own twist on it super cool.

Colleen Aloian  15:50

Right? Because we’re all right, like, the way that I do, it isn’t the way that you do it. And yet, we both are like this colour on the rainbow spectrum, where we’re both unique in our own ways, and can help this people that need it, right, like, everybody is so individual, even if we’re doing something similar,

Juliette Karaman  16:16

completely. And this kind of brings me to the coaching world, the therapy world where we see a lot of people doing similar stuff. And then our little humans, like starts comparing, oh, my God, look at her what she’s achieving, or look at him what he is achieving. And then we start judging ourself again, so we bring ourselves back into a little box. And just kind of the humour of this human life experience, or even when we think or when we get to a point where we’re helping lots of others and where we figured a lot of stuff out, then that comparison, the comparison to psychology wants to come in. And in a way I kind of like see it as a little part of me and I just got like tense like, hey there love. You’re there again. And then once he couldn’t release again, the charge out of it, the energetics are red, it’s, it just becomes kind of like a fun game to play.

Colleen Aloian  17:25

And I love how you call it a comparison site, because it’s like it takes a whole video for a minute. But at the end of the day, it’s really just a self sabotage. Right? Like comparing yourself judging it. Like we’re really just sabotaging and dimming our light, by allowing ourselves to do that instead of coming back in Word, coming back to like, again, this is a choice point. If I want to compare myself to somebody else, and not seeing my own light, am I living in an old story? Am I living in an old pattern? And is this who I want to be? Is this how I’m really going to get my life out into the world by comparing myself to somebody else? No, that feels small. Right? What am I want to choose? instead? Who do I want to be? instead? I want to give them love and compassion because they’re needed to. And I can shine my own light at the same time. And we can help so many more people that way.

Juliette Karaman  18:26

Isn’t it cool? You also touched on it, have them stay in their light, which is beautiful. And we don’t have to trample on others. We don’t have to make others wrong for us to be right. So this is their point of view. It’s super cool. They also do their work. They’re doing their work.

Colleen Aloian  18:47

Right? And if somebody else is triggering you, it’s really about you, because they’re just a mirror. Right? It’s showing you what do I have to work on here? that that person is making me feel this way? Because they’re not making me feel that way? They’re being them. But I’m reacting to it. Right? What’s the work? So,

Juliette Karaman  19:08

so good. And that’s it? So those what what are some of the ways that you would start working with a client? Because I know there’s some people that actually don’t want to get rid of their stories? They’re so deeply ingrained, it’s so easy to just say, you know, it’s it’s all their fault, or it’s all? Yeah, I don’t have any control over this. What are if this is the narrative of some of our listeners, what would you say? I would ask

Colleen Aloian  19:41

them, if, if it’s true, that it’s that person, or if it’s true, that this is just the way that it is? What are you making it mean about you? Because that’s the story. Right? It doesn’t mean that All right. But we’re making it mean that and that’s what’s keeping us stuck.

Juliette Karaman  20:04

Beautiful. So I’m going to just slow down a little bit here. So say for instance, I’m having a fight with my partner, or I might even having a fight, he just something he did annoys me or something he didn’t do annoy me, one of the two doesn’t matter. All right. And I’m noticing that there’s a bit of contraction and like, he never does as he needs to change. So the question then is like, oh,

Colleen Aloian  20:33

what behaviour

Juliette Karaman  20:37

in him has me feel a certain way? What is it mean? About me? What am I making this behaviour that making it mean that he doesn’t love me? He doesn’t take care of me. He’s uncaring. He’s this. He’s that. And then you can start to

Colleen Aloian  20:54

play with that, right? Yes, yes. I love that you’re bringing up this specific example? Because this used to be active in my marriage. Right? And dimple that we know. And I think, yeah, so she had a programme called ladies go first. And I took it. And I was like, dragging my feet the whole time. I’m like, What do you mean, I have to go first, I’m not from here. We are the problem, right. And every single relationship that we have, it’s all about us and how we’re responding to it, it has nothing to do with the other person, the other person is allowed to be their authentic self, right. And so when my husband was deciding to do or not do or whatever, and I was getting upset with him, first of all, I was focusing on the things that he wasn’t doing. And of course, when you put your energy there, that you’re just going to create more of that, right? So I had to start to shift that’s pay attention to the things that he is doing as be attention to the things that he is helping with and supporting with and all of that. And as I started to change my focus, then I could start to see him in a different light. And then when he did something that bothered me, the level of bother, instead of being an eight, now it became a six, so it felt better in my body. And then when he would do things, I would start to question, okay, he’s doing that. I’m making it mean that he doesn’t care about me, right? Is that true? Does he really not care about you, because look at all the things that he is doing that you do appreciate? He obviously cares about you. So where’s that story coming from? Because it has nothing to do with him. It has everything to do with my childhood. From when I didn’t write, everything gets incredible,

Juliette Karaman  22:56

right? Uh huh. And it is all traced back to like, Oh, where did I not feel cared for it? And can I actually change that narrative? Alright, and I love how you actually win. This is one of the things that I do when I take my couples through, if they haven’t had sex and 20 ideas, and they’re like, Okay, sex is off the table, we’re actually now going to really get intimate without having any sex. And we’re like, well, we’re not having any sex anyway, I’m like, Yes, I know. But believe me, in two weeks time, you’re gonna want to have sex, because you’re actually getting to know each other. So intimately again, and you’re gonna be like, Oh, this is interesting. And that is the best because you have the cognitive bias of our brain can’t keep a negative things and a positive thing, in our, in our noggin at the same time. So when you start really looking at all the positive things, what we used to do for each other, and how, how we felt of each other, then all of a sudden, it’s like, we’re in this completely different energetic mindset. And it’s like, not even mindset, but just energetic frequency. And then all of a sudden, things just become much more interesting. And then you add some communication tools to that. And then after that, you add some tools for touch. And then all of a sudden, it’s April Whoa, this is this is something Yeah, like, after two weeks, it’s like Juliet, we’re really sorry, but the homework he gave us to not have sex. That didn’t work for them, like Yeah, hey, after 23 years, 23 years, Draut, all of a sudden, it changed. And they can be that rapid. So we become aware of the patterns that we’re holding.

Colleen Aloian  24:46

Right? And what I’m picking up on as you’re talking is intention, right? Like they had to have the intention to change those little things along the way and when we can hold that intention Shin for ourselves or for our relationship that helps to add to like the energy and the frequency and creating the shift to

Juliette Karaman  25:08

completely. I love how you’re doing the work and you’re continuing to doing the work and, and just noticing such massive shifts, right? So who are you about the story? What is another tip that you would you’d say here for someone that’s just starting this? So

Colleen Aloian  25:29

yes, asking yourself like, what am I making it mean about me, and then noticing just what it was 10 If you can follow it back, like if you can detach yourself from this current story, and see if you can follow it back to maybe an earlier story, where it might be coming from, it might be hard for people at first because there’s so much like emotional charge to the current situation. Right. So like, something happened in my relationship. And I made it mean something, and I got all upset. So I went and I took a walk. And I know it takes about 20 minutes for your nervous system to regulate again, right? So I’m like getting out of my head, and I’m allowing my system to regulate and calm down. And then I’m going back to it and I’m saying, Okay, this is what happened. It’s not about me, don’t take it personally. What did I make it mean about me? Okay, now, where’s that even coming from? Right, and then we can start to see the connections.

Juliette Karaman  26:31

It’s interesting, right? You actually just see where you’ve created a cross wire. Yeah, there’s just some wiring, and it’s just, it’s gone that way. Instead of connecting this way, you’re like, oh, I can, that’s the beautiful thing about you know, your methods. And some of my methods that we do is where we can re wire or we can bring those neural pathways back in, by allowing us to feel it and actually make that connection. And I loved what you had explained that, you know, we take it from short term memory, and we put it in the long term memory where it then becomes a habit. And it’s, it’s wired in. Right, right.

Colleen Aloian  27:12

That’s the thing, like, if it’s still in the short term memory, then we’re reacting to it, because it wasn’t stored away that it needed to be when it originally happened. And what happens is, we start to stack evidence, right? So if in the if, when we were in childhood, or an earlier time in life, and we went through an experience, and we made that experience mean, I’m not enough, then any time something happens, we’re gonna be like, oh, there’s validation, I’m not enough. And then I store it with that memory up. Here’s another one, I’m gonna take that one and store it with this and make it me and I’m not enough. And so we just keep creating the story over and over and over unconsciously, until we become conscious that this is what we’re actually doing to ourselves.

Juliette Karaman  27:58

And that’s when the breath comes in. And we’re like, whoa. I was always kind of like laugh at it. When I recognise the little stories I’ve made up for the little clusters that have formed are like, wow, okay, that’s definitely a bit of a mindfuck Yeah, I had a healing. This has been

Colleen Aloian  28:24

this, this huge thing I realised, and I realised like the universe had been dropping it to me, like, look at this, look at this. And I wasn’t in touch enough to notice it until something big happened. And then I was like, Oh my gosh, and then I saw the pattern. And it’s like it, the universe is just like, you know, take your time whenever you’re ready to notice what’s actually going on here. And then it hit me over the head. I was like, Oh my gosh, I can’t I can’t do that anymore. Like that’s not working for me. And and then you have this choice point where you’re like, Okay, who do I want to be instead? Right, so I can get to my next level, who do I want to be instead?

Juliette Karaman  29:10

Beautiful. I love that. Who do I want to be instead? So some beautiful concrete examples how to lead yourself because we all are leaders, right? How to lead yourself through through the schisms of the mind. Killian, it’s been an absolute pleasure. Please let us know how the listeners can find you. How can they work with you? Where Where do you hang out?

Colleen Aloian  29:41

Yes, thank you. It has been such an amazing conversation today. I hope this reaches some people and help some people and their own journeys. If anybody wants more information, I have some free trainings and things that people can always look into and on Instagram at Helina loin or on my website at WWW dot Kaleen elian.com Facebook, all

Juliette Karaman  30:09

the social media sites, please follow Killian. She is a wealth of information, biggest heart ever and also just really fun to hang out with. Kellyanne Thank you. Thank you so much for being here.

Colleen Aloian  30:27

Thank you for having me. It’s been my pleasure

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